It Is Ok To Do Things Your Way
One of the things I have come to notice a lot more recently than I used to is how there is so much information out there about how you should do things, this is something that applies in many areas of life, not just business.
The right way of doing things
Whilst I fully endorse getting support and guidance, I think it is so easy (especially when you are new at something) to get lost amongst the vast amount of information out there. This in itself is not a bad thing, however by spending hours going through countless bits of information you find yourself at risk of information overload. You can only process so much information, and the more your brain is having to process the more overwhelmed you are going to start feeling.
Concequently, the more information you read the more you are at risk of reading conflicting bits of information. If you have someone advocating
I am sure we have all come across a situation at some point, where we are being told something that we aren’t really sure about. It is being talked about as if it is the answer to all our problems, thousands of people are singing its praises, but for you, there is just something that is not sitting right. For whatever reason, it just doesn’t seem right for you.
What do you do?
The truth is, the people who it has worked for are going to praise this amazing revolutionary way of doing things and the person advertising this amazing solution is going to highlight all the praise. The truth is there will be people who have found that it hasn’t worked for them, they are just not necessarily going to broadcast it, they are most likely going to just move on. So, that is not to say that whatever this method is, doesn’t work, but it is important to remember that it doesn’t work for everyone and that is fine.
We are all different, we all have different strengths and weakness, like and dislikes, tolerances and intolerances. Whilst there are something things that will always be the case no matter what way you try and do something (in general hard work pays off, there are very few shortcuts in life), generally there is a lot of flexibility in how you do things.
To put it simply, the main focus is the destination, that is the end goal and what we are all aiming for. However, there is an infinite number of possible journeys we can take in order to reach our destination, so pick the destination that feels right to you.
Shouldn’t I trust the experts?
Yes, and no. As with everything in life, the most important thing is working with people you have a good relationship with. There will be plenty of people, who are very good at what they do, and they can get the results, but if the relationship and most importantly the trust and respect is not there, then things are not likely going to work. You need to work with people who you connect with, who inspire you, who you like and trust. Not necessarily the person with the flashiest website and impressive figures.
In any of the relationships you have, you should be surrounded by people who support, inspire, encourage, and empower you. If you are surrounded by people who frustrate or bring you down, then your chances of success will diminish quickly. Hence why morale in the workplace is vital, if morale is low then chances are so will productivity. This is why no matter how much of an expert someone is if the relationship isn’t there then the results most likely won’t be either.
Do things your way
It is time to start believing in yourself, in your abilities. If there is one thing I have seen all ‘experts’ agree on it is that the hard work, the results, and all the success does not come directly from them, but from the hard work their clients put in. Think about that, they are only as successful as the hard work YOU put in.
Even with an expert guiding you, the hard work comes from you. They cannot make money for you, they cannot lose weight for you, they cannot improve your mental health. The overall power is with you. This is why the journey itself is not important, how you get there is not important. There are billions of possible ways of reaching your goal, you have to find the way that works for you.
If you don’t like social media marketing, find another marketing method that works for you. Don’t like aerobics, then try another form of exercise. Not finding CBT helpful, then find another form of therapy. There is no one size fits all, but there will be something out there for you, you just need to find it.